It kinda went something like this as I took to social media to vent my frustration...
OK--not to be ungrateful but I am about to have full blown rant. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day. It also happens to be our 21st wedding anniversary. During casual conversation he happen to mention he will be getting me roses.
1) Do I like roses? Yes but I like rose PLANTS--NOT cut flowers unless I am clipping them from MY garden. Otherwise they are ridiculously overpriced
2) We have been together almost 24 years-how in the hell does he still have NO CLUE as to what I like/ dislike
3) I don't mind him telling me what he is getting me because I abhor (bad) surprises. What bothers me is he is waiting until the LAST possible minute to get some routine, random gift. With no forethought or planning. It isn't like he has had an ENTIRE year to think of something!!
You know what would be the PERFECT anniversary gift? Spend time with me. We can watch a movie and cook dinner together. You want to get me gift? Great. How about a new planter box, seeds of the month club, or garden wagon. Or better yet how about a donation to my favorite charity? For one these items are practical and two it indicates to me you listen to me and KNOW what I am interested in. Do not just slap down money on something which will wither and die with a few days. Do not buy me jewelery because I am not a shiny kind of girl. And btw I am NOT dissing those of you who like that stuff I am speaking for ME. Seriously how in the hell can he not know after almost 24 yrs what speaks to me, what matters and what I hold dear???!!!! GGGRRRRRR
Like how he doesn't mind constantly retrieving things from the closets and kitchen cabinets that I am to short to reach--even while standing on the step ladder.
We may fuss and fight (and by we I mean me), we may not always take the same approach when dealing with life's problems-big or small- but we always come together to meet the challenges as a team. We have had many challenges and obstacles, but we have had many more laughs, many memories and always love.