Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Silver Anniversary



25 years ago on Valentine's Day, the now hubbs and I stood in the judges chambers and exchanged vows with cheap gold bands. We were married on his lunch break. I wore a navy blue suit dress and he wore his work uniform. This decision to marry was not made on a whim. We had planned on a having a "real" wedding with a fancy dress, tuxedo, candles, flowers, and cake. But it didn't happen. We had plenty of love and very little money. The hubbs sure did sign up for a lot more than he expected when he met, fell in love and married me. I was as broken as person could be, dragging a cartload of issues and beautiful little girl with me. He didn't just become my husband that day. He became an instant father. My friend, my confidant, and counselor.

Over the years we have struggled on so many levels with health issues, money issues, all the external forces and stresses found in most relationships. In addition we were learning to grow as individuals, how to be comfortable with ourselves and each other.
There were a couple of times we nearly quit and tossed the word divorce around. It was ugly, heartbreaking and emotionally devastating. Yet somehow, we found a tiny sliver of hope, realizing we still had enough love to overcome the anger and animosity. Then began the arduous task of repairing our relationship.

Many people tell us we are "lucky" to have such a long marriage, I disagree. We are lucky to have crossed paths and find a connection. We are blessed to have have such a deep rooted love. But in truth we have worked very hard to maintain our relationship. Twenty five years married. No small feat in today's world. I have been married half my life. Some days it seems an eternity. Some days I wonder how it has passed so quickly.

While I know I often talk smack about the hubbs, it is all in jest. I truly appreciate him. He has been a stabilizing force in my life. He has been a great father and a wonderful friend. I admire the man he has become. The safest place I can be, is when he wraps me in his arms. And the best part is when I look in his beautiful blue eyes and see so much love reflected there.

I truly love this man of mine. I love him in good times and bad. And in sickness and health. I love him when he makes me laugh. I still love him when he makes me cry. I don't always love him when he tracks mud on my floor or leaves dirty towels on the carpet. Then I sigh, because he has loved me with all my flaws and surely I can love him through his.
So twenty five years ago we may not have had the "real" wedding as dictated by society, but we certainly have had a real marriage. Full of challenges. Full of expectations. Full of surprises. But mostly full of of hope and love.

Twenty five years ago when we stood in the judges chambers and exchanged vows, we had no idea the path our lives would take. We were young, naive and eternally optimistic. We were certain love conquers all. And all these years later, as we have we have discovered, it did indeed.

Here's to another twenty five!

   
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Sunday, February 12, 2017

Catching up

Happy belated New Year's to everyone. My apologies for abandoning my blog. I just couldn't seem to muster the energy to work on creative projects, let alone write about what is going on at My Cozy Little Farmhouse. Things are on an upswing. I seem to be coming out of my funk or whatever this moodiness is I have been experiencing for months. Since I last posted there have been a couple of holidays (Christmas and New Year's), a major purchase (a new to us truck for the hubbs) and a milestone birthday for me-50th!

Christmas was a small gathering of myself, the hubbs, our daughter, son-in-law and our daughter's BFF (adopted daughter #2). I made an extra effort to be more festive.
It must have worked because there were Sam-Sam shenanigans.

The big purchase--a shiny (new to him) pick up truck! For all the years the hubbs and I have been together, he has always had the used, beater, or hand me down vehicle. Since I work from home 4 days per week now--he has the new vehicle. It is Chevy (his favorite) and a 4 wheel drive. I may not be excited about the payment, but think of all the plants I can haul in this truck!


My milestone birthday...the BIG 5-0!
Sometimes you just gotta stop to smell the roses
eat rainbow chip birthday cake and wear sequined slippers!

I haven't been a complete sloth. I have mostly been pretty-fying the house. Basically spending money like we won the lottery, ha!  Ummm, which we didn't, so the spending has to stop!  We bought a new TV, surround sound, TV stand and bookcases. The TV stand and bookcases were purchased from Target. The color is called Overcast. I had paint matched so I can paint the shelf holding all the DVD's, well, as soon as the weather is nice.
The spare room/ office was spruced up with a new headboard, curtains, new bedding, rearranging some decorations, and new desk. I have a much lighter, brighter and happy space to both work and craft/ sew. 


So that is my life in pictures for the last few months.


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